For personal reasons, I have been studying and gathering insight on lust and feel its time to expose the enemy. Part 1 is a small but powerful revelation I recieve last week while battling lust. (please leave your feedback)
A lot of times we feel like our lust or sexual struggles do not affect other people, especially when no one else knows about them but this is farthest from the truth. Last week God showed me just how much it can affect the one closest to me, my future wife. The affect of sexual sins are evident in generational curses but when you don’t have kids or aren’t close to having kids you can procrastinate. So God had to use something that would hit closer to home. When we give ourselves to pornography or multiple sexual partners or sexual fantasies we are hurting our spouse or future spouse. What we’re doing, whether we realize it or not, is creating a standard in our mind that our spouse will never be able to reach. By filling our minds and hearts with these images and expectations, we program ourselves to know what pleases us and as time goes on it takes more to please us. This is one of the dangers of engaging in premarital sex.
Side note: This is also a good reason why you should not be dating or courting when you are nowhere near ready to move toward marriage. I’ve talked about this in a previous blog but when we think of girlfriend/boyfriend and friendships, the only real difference is the physical aspect; the hugging, holding hands, kissing, etc. But when you’re 15 or 16 or even an adult and engaging in this level of physical activity, soon it will no longer satisfy you and you’ll want more. Why open the door when you can’t go all the way in?
But we’re actually setting unrealistic expectations that our spouse or future spouse will never be able to match up to. That scared me, to know that by what I’m giving myself to, I’m placing myself and my future wife in a position to where she will not be able to satisfy me. And it will only be my fault! Whether its multiple partners, pornography, masturbation, or sexual fantasies with every indulgence we’re raising the standard for our spouse. Lust feeds lust, meaning it’s never satisfied so it will take more to satisfy your lust or even in marriage your sex drive.
With this revelation, its blatant selfishness to continue to give oneself to such things.
Lord, your work on the cross has freed us from all sin, including lust. Help us to keep the work of the cross in view in our daily living. We repent for giving ourselves to things that do not honor you and chose this day to turn from them and pursue righteousness. Help us to walk in the knowledge of your grace and know that, “the temptations that come into our life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that we can’t stand up against it. When we are tempted, he will show us a way out so that we will not give in to it.” In Jesus name, Amen.
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